Overcoming Fear
Fear is a powerful and visceral force that can have (and most likely has) a very potent leash on our lives. Most people will subconsciously avoid situations and talk themselves out of activities out of fear even if they knew themselves that these activities are part of their path to achieving their goals or finding greater levels of happiness. Even if it seems counter intuitive, most people will agree that we do (or stop doing) things out of fear a lot of times in our lives. Knowing this, how can we live with this powerful sensation rather than being controlled by it? In the next few paragraphs we include some tips that we think will greatly help you to liberate yourself from the clutches of fear and lead you into the embrace of a more free life.
Tip Number One: Baby Steps
Even if it's not this dramatic it can still affect you.
Fear has an effect on your reality, it describes things makes certain activities desirable while others are marked as undesirable. This fear is deep rooted into the way you interpret the world and thus it can seem overwhelming to hit it head on at first. Positive action doesn't have to be an epic and gargantuan action, it just needs to be positive. Take small steps that help you to deal with your fear: if you are afraid of asking people out start having short casual conversations with strangers (or perhaps just say hi); if you want to enroll in an English school London based but think you're no good with languages, try just learning 5 new words. Every step you take brings you closer to a conquer of your fear.
Tip Number Two: Get Motivated
Archimedes said Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.
This is a very solid advice from a long dead mentor. In order to move yourself towards your goal you need leverage. Motivation is the fuel that keeps the inner fire burning when the storms of life do their best to throw you off course. Staying motivated is not just recommended or a good idea, it is absolutely vital. Motivation can come from taking your time everyday to vividly imagine the feelings you will get from all the positive changes you want to implement in your life. As you involve more of your senses with your images, a positive feeling will get associated with the activities that lead to that change which will power your efforts and make you last the whole race.
Tip Number Three: There is no Failure
Most people fear failure and rejection. A lot of these people will also constantly imagine vivid pictures of terrible ways that they can (and will) fail on their projects or picture their loved ones laughing in contempt at their failures. Therefore, most people are already experiencing in their head the terrible results they fear which cause them to not even attempt the activity in the first place.
We have been brought with a definition of failure that really does us a disservice. A positive way to replace this dreaded picture of failure is to think about it from the perspective of a game. In a game, failure is the way in which we get information. Even if we have access to rules and expert tips, failure is the way we can really see which things work and which things don't. Failure itself it's nothing bad, on the contrary, failure is essential if one wants to get good at playing. The best players will produce specific failure scenarios to improve their abilities and find new things. You can apply the same perspective in your life: if you get turn down at a very popular English course London City offers, think about how you can learn from this experience and work it to your advantage. For those who can learn and better themselves from their failures... failures don't exist at all.
